In Ezra's latest show, The Moral Cost of Trump's War, Fareed mentioned this. While I know there was a lot of criticism of him, I think this line was really insightful, and put words to a thought that's been circling in my mind for a while. I come from an immigrant family that lived in a rural village, and I've always been fascinated about the intangible things that change from that lifestyle to a modern urban one.
There were many old-fashioned scripts that liberal progressives have successfully de-prioritized in the 20th century. About how a man needs to be a provider, physically strong, a churchgoer, married to a woman, compete with the other men. And women need to keep to the home, to bake treats for the upcoming events, raise the children, be easygoing and not confrontational, etc... These scripts led to toxic masculinity, power dynamics, lack of individuality, and everything that liberal progressives identified.
But to straw man their existence, those scripts also gave a strong fabric of life. When you're from an old fashioned script-based mindset like that, when the fishery or the meat packing plant goes out of business and you lose your job, there's a lot less shame that is associated with you. You're still a good man, you worked when you were supposed to, you go to church, you helped your neighbor fix something last month. There's no personal identity crisis that comes along with things like that.
In a modern day setting with liberal capitalism, the assumption is that we as individuals are in total control over our conditions. We are supposed to do the market research and decide how to spend 4+ years training for a job. We are supposed to develop interviewing skills and marketable job skills and network to find opportunities. We are supposed to assess the risk to decide whether buying a house is the right time now, and can we afford our kids, and which consumer choices we make. And if anything happens like a job loss, there's a crushing blow to your identity. You're not still a strong man, a father, a churchgoer. You're just a guy who was bringing in $7k a month and able to pay their bills, and now you're a guy who's not bringing in $7k a month anymore and cannot pay their bills. It's a much lonelier, psychologically turbulent, and alienating way to live.
With those scripts, you know that if you followed it, you'd be safe within the tribe. People that venture out from pre-described lifestyles are not safe within the culture of the tribe. But all day, we are bombarded with images of people who eschew any script. There's the tech bros who spend their 20s working 80 hours a week typing on a computer for that 1% chance of building their startup. And they succeed! Everyone sees the fruits of people like that. There's people who don't think about marriage until way later in life. People who don't sleep at normal hours, people who choose to be digital nomads, people who change their genders or marry people of their same gender, it can be dizzying and disassociating to honestly pose the question to yourself - "What exactly should I be doing today", if you don't have a script to fall back on.
There are some portion of people, I'll guess maybe 20-30% of people who do quite well in a modern liberal capitalist, transient, individualized, urban lifestyle. I can generalize and say many of the people reading the NYT and listening to EK and are on this subreddit probably fit in that category. We can analyze the market and make informed decisions about what good paying jobs meet in the middle of the Venn diagram of things we feel a natural aptitude for. We can move to a new city without roots and figure out life. We can navigate daily life and find fun things to do without much trouble. In the absence of a "strong man provider" or "submissive caring woman" script to follow, we can do things that fulfill us - advancing in our career, training for a marathon, going to open mic classes, researching health tips, etc...
However, we have to acknowledge that there's a significant group of people, maybe 20-30%, I don't know, I'm just guessing, who don't thrive without a script to follow. If the steel mill their dad and grandfather worked at is shut down, they're shell shocked. They work at the nearest grocery store near them, watch TV and scroll feeds when they get home, eat the cheapest processed food, get fat, and live marginal lives in society. These people can feel that something is wrong, that the basic deal from society that their parents and grandparents got is not still active. But for whatever reason, they don't have whatever it is that allows others to adapt to this freedom, with no script. I think this undirected resentment is a part of the MAGA mindset that can't be ignored.
I also think it's worth mentioning that this frustration can metastasize in some pretty ugly ways. I have a lot of conservative family and friends, and I often try to talk to them and get to the core of why they feel a certain way. There's a noticeable chunk of them who I think are uncomfortable with the lack of scripts in society. They're not content with "Ok, everyone can do what they want in this world, and I just choose to live like my grandfather, marrying a woman, having a nuclear family in a suburban house with a white picket fence". They want people who do not fit into the script they imagine to suffer. They like seeing examples of people who didn't follow the script getting into trouble. It's a constant affirmation that they made the right choice. These are the people who like Trump's cruelty. Renee Good died, but she was a married to a woman, so we can immediately dismiss her for not following the script, etc...
I think these dark and ugly spasms are a reaction to liberalism pretty successfully eliminating the scripts that most of the world used to abide by. And I think the way that the JD Vance New Right, incels, and all their associated podcasts, talk is indicative of that. They're all circling this idea, this fundamental frustration of having a script-less world. I think liberals need to directly confront it, to have a meaning in life, to espouse a purpose, rather than "Oh, I don't know, we got rid of all the historical obstacles in your way, now you can make whatever money you want and do whatever you want with it, just don't bother anyone else". This is the level that I think a lot of our future politics will be fought at.